I’m 15 years old and need to get on birth control…
I’ve checked it out and am thinking about either the implant or the shot. I’ve tried to talk to my mother about it but she is not hearing it right now. I know I need to go to the doctor but will they let me make an appointment without my mom there with me? She said that she will find out if I try to go. How can I make sure no one tells her?
I understand your concern about your privacy.
Fortunately, New York State supports teens rights to access sexual health services confidentially. So, the answer to your first question is a simple — YES!!
You can make an appointment with your health care provider to discuss birth control without your parents’ permission or knowledge. The doctor’s office can not share any information with your mother about your appointment. That includes even telling her that you have an appointment. That includes even telling her that you have an appointment. So you can feel comfortable knowing that anything that you discuss with your doctor, and any treatment or prescriptions you decide to get will not be shared with your mother — not even if she calls the office and asks!
You might also want to consider applying for the Family Planning Benefits Program (FPBP). By doing a confidential FPBP application, you could have your birth control covered without having to use your parents’ health insurance. It is possible that she would receive a bill from the insurance company, so FPBP would ensure your privacy.
For more information on FPBP call 1-800-230-PLAN or go to www.health.ny.gov/forms/doh-4282.pdf for an application.
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